So... I tried three different sets of 8gb ram. The one I purchased from newegg, a 1066 2x4gb set from Corsair, and a 2x4gb set from Patriot.
All did not work. So I called Toshiba and apparently the only ram which is compatible is ram from Toshiba, which you can order overpriced from toshiba direct.
I am throughly ........ed and will never buy a toshiba laptop ever again and I wouldn't if I were you either.