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RoD
12-18-2002, 07:28 PM
Ok, to make a long story short i have really gotten close to a girl i know, in fact shes the only true love i have ever had. For the four years i have known her, 3 of them were spent with her ex david. Now we have finally started to "click" and he comes back from south carolina on christmas break from collefe and wants her to go back with him. She has always loved him like i love her, and i can tell from the look in her eyes when she told me he asked that shes going to go.

Life sucks then you die, just needed to get that out.

TheUnheardHuman
12-18-2002, 07:30 PM
well i always thought thats wut life was. a big hell hole then u die and literly go to hell.

RoD
12-18-2002, 07:32 PM
heh i'm in hell, hey satan turn up the damn heat....

...
12-18-2002, 08:36 PM
one hard truth i have learned about love is that there is no 'one' or 'soul-mate'. that 'true love' is actually thousands of people that are both compatible with you and that you find attractive. love is picking one of those people and sticking with them.

golfinguy4
12-18-2002, 08:39 PM
Think of it this way, someone always has it worse.

BMJ
12-18-2002, 09:00 PM
Originally posted by golfinguy4
Think of it this way, someone always has it worse. Yes, me.... I guarantee it.

TheUnheardHuman
12-18-2002, 09:05 PM
nah i overall gaurintee it. but i am to lazy to spell it right

Nick
12-18-2002, 09:06 PM
I had to deal with this girl who was once married.
Terrible how I dealt with it. I knew I would have problems
as soon as I met her... But I think she forgave me though.

minesweeper
12-18-2002, 09:21 PM
Geez, Ride or Die, that is really bad. Almost brought a tear to my eye. All I can say is that I, at 22 have been through similar experiences and it sux!!

But quite frankly, with your knowledge of computers and programming, the world awaits you with open arms!! The world is your oyster and you will do fine.

Commander
12-18-2002, 09:59 PM
Originally posted by Ride -or- Die
Life sucks then you die u can't be more right!! i talk from experience

beely
12-18-2002, 10:01 PM
my love life worst than you all. duh, i fall in love with gal who has a boyfriend. but the gal pretend to be cool. sigh ... i have realised that i have been love with her about 3 years ago. :(

Shadow
12-18-2002, 10:09 PM
>
But quite frankly, with your knowledge of computers and programming, the world awaits you with open arms!! The world is your oyster and you will do fine.
<
Look at my signature. Couldn't have said it better myself. That's a great attitude, and it hold's true to you ROD.

ROD, that's horrible news though. Not good at all.

I've only been with 4 girls, and I'm 21.
First one = 1 year, 10 months. 2nd = 2 months. 3rd = 2 visits. current = 1yr + very happy. I ended things with all previous g/f's..

Ah..sooner or later you'll be cussin bout pentiums, amd's, void main's and the whole lot. You'll see..

BMJ
12-18-2002, 11:04 PM
Originally posted by Commander
u can't be more right!! i talk from experience What? you've died?

DavidP
12-18-2002, 11:16 PM
3 of them were spent with her ex david


woah....hold the horses here...hold the horses....I went out with this girl and nobody told me? When was I going to be let in on the goods? huh? ah come on....3 years of going out with her and i didnt even know it....

beely
12-19-2002, 12:42 AM
hey hey, how's the way to trick the gal, if you like her. hehe.... i need some comment, hehe .. i dont have x, but i need to have it. :D

Shadow
12-19-2002, 01:54 AM
> how's the way to trick the gal, if you like her.
Well, I don't trick gals I like, unless I'm joking around.

> hehe.... i need some comment,
/* comment */

> hehe .. i dont have x, but i need to have it.
That sounds very bad.

RoD
12-19-2002, 05:09 AM
Like since this came up, i realized that her and i just aren't going to work. She cares about him so much that shes willing to just leave to be with him. I started looking at real estate in FL, not cuz i wanna follow her but cuz without her theres nothing here for me, and i'd love to just start over. Shes literally what makes me work so hard, because someday i want to feel like i am worthy of being with someone like her.

I'm not going to be ok for a very, very long time. Thnx guys.

civix
12-19-2002, 07:49 AM
Same thing happens all the time with me. It seems that you can get close to someone easily, and then be torn apart just as easily, doesnt it? I'm sorry.:(

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12-19-2002, 08:13 AM
Originally posted by Shadow >I've only been with 4 girls, and I'm 21.
First one = 1 year, 10 months. 2nd = 2 months. 3rd = 2 visits. current = 1yr + very happy. I ended things with all previous g/f's..

that sounds remarkably similar to my life.

im 20, and have only been with 4 girls: First g/f = about 5 months, 2nd g/f = about 6 months, 3rd g/f = same person as first g/f for another 5 months or so, 4th g/f = went over her house a couple times and made out, then she moved to dallas, 5th = not really a g/f, more of a regret, current = nonexistant :( but oh well...

RoD
12-19-2002, 10:16 AM
can't say much cept thnx alot, i see her next period(i'm in class, gtg),


thnx again guys.

RoD
12-19-2002, 03:05 PM
i got to get a good bit of it out in aim with a friend, figured i may as well post it to maybe give a better idea how i feel.



SacredBerylRose: hey

LiquidCyanide17: hi

SacredBerylRose: how you doing?

LiquidCyanide17: horrib;le

SacredBerylRose: : (

LiquidCyanide17: : /

SacredBerylRose: I got your IM last night, but you were already signed off

LiquidCyanide17: sorry

SacredBerylRose: don't be

SacredBerylRose: so she's just up and leaving with him?

LiquidCyanide17: yea well

SacredBerylRose: : / isn't she a senior?

LiquidCyanide17: ye

LiquidCyanide17: yea

SacredBerylRose: is she finishing school first?

LiquidCyanide17: no shes going to get in down there

SacredBerylRose: oh my....why in the world would she do that? sorrie...that just sounds crazy to me

LiquidCyanide17: she loves him

SacredBerylRose: love or not...I mean, it's her senior year...and seriously...if he loved her, he wouldn't do that to her...I dunno, maybe that's just me

LiquidCyanide17: : /

SacredBerylRose: did you say anything to her?

LiquidCyanide17: yea

SacredBerylRose: what'd you tell her?

LiquidCyanide17: that she should do what is going to make her happy. She said that was to be with david, so i told her she should go.

SacredBerylRose: : /

LiquidCyanide17: i want her to be happy, if that means going to SC, then shes got to go

SacredBerylRose: I guess when you really love somebody...ultimately you just want them to be happy

LiquidCyanide17: yea

SacredBerylRose: are you going to be ok?
LiquidCyanide17: its going to be a very long time before i am even close to thinking about being ok

SacredBerylRose: : (

SacredBerylRose: she said she's definitely going, no doubt?

LiquidCyanide17: no she said she didn't know, but i know cuz i looked in her eyes. She misses him so much, all she wants is to be with him, and shes going to be

LiquidCyanide17: i know shes gone

SacredBerylRose: : ( I'm sorrie

LiquidCyanide17: don't be

SacredBerylRose: are you still going to try to talk to her somehow?

LiquidCyanide17: im trying to talk to her like shes not leaving ya know.....i literally cried last night. i'm not the type of person to cry

LiquidCyanide17: at all

SacredBerylRose: I kinda would think you would...I know I would've if I was in your shoes...do you think if you two still tried to stay in contact, would that be something you'd want or what?

LiquidCyanide17: i have no idea. I think the rational side of me says break it off, because im just going to cry my ass off, my heart says i can't live without her.....but my heart also says im living without her if i'm not with her

LiquidCyanide17: i'm so ****ed up right now

SacredBerylRose: it's hard to say anything because when you really love somebody like that, even though you know you should let go, you can't...you need to decide though even if she does go, do you still want to have her in your life somehow or no...and can you deal with it or not

LiquidCyanide17: i don't know if i can deal either way. I feel like i'm stuck on a stone pillar, one side has hell and the other has hell. Either way i fall and either way i'm ****ed.

SacredBerylRose: I know it won't be easy...no matter what way you look at the situation, but you could still keep in contact with her if you really wanted to...but if that's only going to hurt you more, then I wouldn't advise it...but I'd hate to see you lose someone out of your life completely who means so much to you

LiquidCyanide17: she is my life, without her i see no honest reason to wake up. sad as that is i don't see any reason to do jack **** if shes not here to share it with me ya know. anytime i see my future i have always pictured her in it, and to see that as an impossibility is KILLING me. I do plan to give her my cell # and stuff, but i don't know how i will handle it if she uses it ya know. I don't want to cling to some "maybe in the future" dream cuz then BLAM here i am again.

SacredBerylRose: well then I think you know what you have to do...nobody can tell you what to do 'cept for you...do you want to be happy? and if you do, can you be happy holding on to someone who is only a possibility for the future? everything is a possibility, but with her down there and you up here...you just have to decide what is going to make YOU happy...you have to look out for yourself right now

SacredBerylRose: I know you say that she will make you happy, but you need to look beyond that

SacredBerylRose: you have to make yourself happy first before anyone can make you happy

LiquidCyanide17: i know i do. I may not be up here much longer, i was staying here till graduation because she didn't want me to leave yet, but if shes not here i have no reason to stay. She was my reason not to move to FL, now shes gone what reason do i have...

SacredBerylRose: then exactly...you need to build your own life and do your own thing...don't build it around someone else...I know this sound cliche, but if you two are meant to be together, then one day you will...but for now, you have to do what you need to do to make YOU happy, nobody else

LiquidCyanide17: make it sound a little easier :P

SacredBerylRose: plain and simple...make yourself happy

LiquidCyanide17: i don't see how i CAN be happy without her.....i am so pathetic

SacredBerylRose: you're not pathetic...trust me...you just love her very much...but don't let that stop you from being happy...you don't have to have her to make you happy...she doesn't make who you are...nobody does...you just have to want to be happy bad enough that you do what it takes to make yourself happy

LiquidCyanide17: brb

SacredBerylRose: ok

LiquidCyanide17: needed soda lol

SacredBerylRose: lol...okie doke

LiquidCyanide17: i feel so.....how to say it....BLEH

LiquidCyanide17: i feel BLEH

SacredBerylRose: isn't she doing what she feels is going to make her happy? so don't you think you need to do the same?

LiquidCyanide17: shes only doing what she needs to be happy because i told her too

SacredBerylRose: so here I am telling you to do what you need to do to be happy...practice what you preach mister

LiquidCyanide17: nice comeback.

LiquidCyanide17: time heals all wounds, heh we'll see

RoD
12-22-2002, 11:16 AM
Well its now official, shes leaving. I think i'm going to try and stay in touch with her, but it'll dicipate i predict.

Life goes on right?

windoze victim
12-22-2002, 11:31 AM
I've liked this girl for 3 years, but cant get up the courage to tell her that in front of her crowd of 20 friends that always seem to be around. All I do is say hi, or even just walk by, and some of the girls break out in a fit of giggles.
Strange.

civix
12-22-2002, 03:57 PM
Life goes on, RoD...same with me. The girl in my pic with me (my ex girlfrind of 4 years) recently moved to New Mexico.

She just wasnt the one for you, bud.

RoD
12-22-2002, 05:16 PM
i think that she wasn't is the hardest part to grasp, were going out to the mall now.

Fountain
12-22-2002, 06:25 PM
Dont talk soft ROD

Remember, you never forget etc your first love. Was this her first love? People always want to go back with their first love but it hardly EVER works.

Anyway, you would be mad to let her go without getting her TOLD how you feel etc.

You may find if you tell it how it is-I mean niceley-that she may have something new to think about.

Dont ever let any1 go without them knowing the full SP.

Take this advice from 'Don Juan'-not a nice nickname, but one I have gained from work lateley!:D :D :D


EDIT-and if you tell her and she goes, then it doesnt work out, where do you think she will turn? You cannot mind that as you have seen her for 3 yrs with some other geezer remember! Go on my son!

RoD
12-22-2002, 06:29 PM
Yea hes her first of everything lol, but she knows how i feel shes just totally focused on him.

Fountain
12-22-2002, 06:34 PM
I BET she doesnt REALLY know ROD. Make some time, sit your arse down and tell her!

And mate, as I said-if he was her first love etc, the odds are against them.

If she does go after you told her how you feel, I bet she will be back before you know it. Well, thats if u r a nice guy!

RoD
12-22-2002, 06:52 PM
Dude i don't think its possible for her NOT to know the extent of it, i mean if u were like a good friend of ours u'd know what i mean. Like she has no doubt, problem is SHE loves HIM.

I hope she does come back, but shes the type to hold out and try and make it work till it kills her, literally.

Fountain
12-22-2002, 06:57 PM
Originally posted by Ride -or- Die
Dude i don't think its possible for her NOT to know the extent of it, i mean if u were like a good friend of ours u'd know what i mean. Like she has no doubt, problem is SHE loves HIM.

I hope she does come back, but shes the type to hold out and try and make it work till it kills her, literally.


Of course it is possible for her not to know!

Trust me ROD at least make sure you tell her before she goes! I mean it I'll slap you if you dont.!

And she wont hold out-first love stuff doesnt hold you for ever! Make sure you are the one she comes back to.;)

rick barclay
12-22-2002, 07:02 PM
Getting dumped really hurts, and only time will make the pain
go away. Someday you'll fall in love again, as I did and most
people do, and this time it will work. You'll get married, have
kids, and everything that happened to you so recently will
have seemed so long ago you barely remember her name or
why you loved her. Everybody gets dumped; it's a necessary
evil part of life and growing up. You'll get over her. You have to.
It's just too bad you have to hurt so.

RoD
12-23-2002, 09:03 AM
Originally posted by Fountain
Of course it is possible for her not to know!

Trust me ROD at least make sure you tell her before she goes! I mean it I'll slap you if you dont.!

And she wont hold out-first love stuff doesnt hold you for ever! Make sure you are the one she comes back to.;)

i'll try.