Thread: the first kiss- a question

Yes, forget about it, and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You havn't missed anything at all.

It's nothing special, of course, you can feel things like "love" - but those feelings are cursed to die. When you get to know eachother it's already over.

heh.. some advice that i've learned the hard way: never tell a girl what you think of her unless you are either with her alone, or you KNOW that she feels the same way about you. Usually they get scared if you say anything to a positive liking effect and hide it with saying something like 'aww'...

Just keep your eyes open, and don't let them take anything for granted.

Originally posted by Unregistered Dude #2
I'm 19 and I've never had a girlfriend. I haven't met one girl interested in me at all. I have tried but I just can't seem to find someone. Any advice?

Don't be afraid to fail. Expect that a good portion of the time, you WILL be rejected. It happens to absolutely everyone. Learn to fail with grace (that's good advice for life in general, as well).

Keep trying, and although you may fail a lot, sometimes you'll meet someone who's as interested in you as you are in them.

Further, although you should know you're going to fail often, in many things, always keep a positive attitude -- sometimes positive thinking can be your salvation.

Basic idea: Go into every situation thinking you will succeed, handle your failures with grace, and never stop trying. That'll get you far in any aspect of life.

Well, I'm a little scared because I don't want to be single my entire ife (I know I'm too early to say that), but it doesn't seem like I'm going to change my status in a short period of time.

Oskilian

so you're saying that someone has to be crazy to join this community?........ i'm with you on that

I think that if you want to meet girls that you might have something in common with ...then go to a public event or something that you are interested in. For example, I met my GF at a gamming convention. When I over heard her complaining to a friend about games taking up all her hard drive space.....AND saw how beautiful she was.... I Knew that I was in love We met in the PS2 booth and the rest is history. It's great too because not only do we like the physical things about eachother, but we have common interests and never run out of things to talk about. I think that's a good foundation to build an even better relationship on.

Good Luck Fellas.

Thanks guys for that advice, esp. Betazep. I guess if I concerntrate on myself and improving, the rest will follow.

well, I would, but the problem is that there are NO public events of my interest AT ALL! I studied in an all-male school, and I'm going to celloge, so I hope I'll find someone who shares my interests there, but the question is:

should one seek a person of the opposite sex who shares the same interests as you? or should you find one who is a your complement, the girl I'm talking about is of the second kind: she likes singing, she enjoys social life, ...

BTW: why is it that we are more passionate at night? I mean, I checked the forum in the morning and I was completely ashamed of writing what I wrote the previous night; but for some strange reason I'm more open right now and I am sharing even more with total strangers (well, I'm sharing this with you (and I haven't shared it with NO ONE ELSE) because you're my friends and fellow programmers who understand me..., I hope I wasn't wrong)

Oskilian

should one seek a person of the opposite sex who shares the same interests as you? or should you find one who is a your complement, the girl I'm talking about is of the second kind: she likes singing, she enjoys social life, ...

No by no means does a girl HAVE to have the same interests as you for you to have a good relationship. I was just suggesting that, something along those lines might be a good way to meet people. I sure know it worked it for me.