Thread: the first kiss- a question

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    Hi!

    I like a girl (I can't call it love, though!). Recently, I got the courage to tell her, and found that she likes me too. The day I told her, before she go, she kissed me on the cheek, and I did it, too. I liked it very much!
    After I got back home, I was thinking for that only...all the time! I always wanted and dreamed to kiss her, but this time a real mouth kiss. Today, we did it... she asked me either with a tongue or not. I told her with. It was my first kissing in my life (I am 16), and my problem is that I felt really strange, and I am not sure if I liked this kind of kiss... I never expected it to be this way at feel.
    Should I be somehow concerned? Is it normal that I get wondered wheteher I liked it or not? (Notice again, that I kiss for the first time in my life).
    How did YOU feel the first time? Did you like it, or like me- not much...?

    Thanks!

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    Kissing is a wonderful thing. Don't be too concerned about how you kiss, when to kiss, etc. Just use a lot of heart. Be compassionate. Be caring. Be gentle. Pretty soon, you will be an old pro at it.

    My first kiss lasted an eternity, and I enjoyed it thoroughly. I remember feeling a little intimidated because she knew what she was doing, and I really didn't.

    I have come to learn, many kisses later with many women, that nobody really ever knows what they are doing in new relationships. That is part of the excitement of it: you never know how it is going to flow until it is happening and it usually overwhelms you when it does.

    Most importantly, maintain innocence... and always have respect. I pity people that view relationship partners as objects and conquests. I feel they never find the true joy of what relationships can bring.

    Congrats... have fun... be safe.
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    >>> she kissed me on the cheek, and I did it, too.

    So she kissed you on your cheek and you kissed you on the cheek, man, thats clever!

    Seriously, there is no right way or wrong way, as your relationship develops, you will evolve your, (as in you two's), way that works for you two.

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    I pity people that view relationship partners as objects and conquests. I feel they never find the true joy of what relationships can bring.
    <<<

    That is SO right.
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    "So she kissed you on your cheek and you kissed you on the cheek, man, thats clever! "

    I mean that I kissed her on the cheek, too... not that I kissed myself...!

    I agree with the second thing, too...and she is not "an object"... I really like her... just didn't really like the mouth to mouth kiss, and I am not sure if this is normal when for first time?

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    >>> not that I kissed myself...!

    Err, yeah, the humourous trait in my voice loses something in the typing!

    >>> didn't really like the mouth to mouth kiss

    As I said, you will develop a method that works for both of you. If it was your first, how could you possibly get it right first time? Practice my lad, practice!
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    You probably just felt uncomfortable with it because you were understandably nervous. Don't try to read to much into it. Just relax, be yourself and see what the future brings.

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    We are all objects. Though in my world, I'm the main object.

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    ... and obviously in your world you are lonely and depressed.


    For the kiss... well, I'm far from being a pro, but I agree with the majority here... put in heart and feelings and it will be great. Were you comfortable on your first ride on a bike ? I was not. I was afraid I would fall and die the most horrible death in history. I wasn't comfortable on that bike at all. I thought I'd never survive on that construct from hell. But riding a bike can be fun on a nice summer day. All you have to do is relax and don't think too much about it. Have fun. Be safe. Practice makes perfect
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    Yeah, I agree with you... and thank you very much for your reply...

    I am going to try agian, soon...
    But the problem is that I don't feel like doing it right now... maybe I am too excited, I don't know... but when do it I want to do it with feeling, but not just for the act... and right now, I can't feel anything... I can't feel anything to anyone right now...that much I am stumped!

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    >>>just didn't really like the mouth to mouth kiss, and I am not sure if this is normal when for first time?


    Very normal...

    some advice.

    Did you ever have something that you were really really excited about? Like getting that perfect gift.

    Try to feel that... smile... reach out for her and kiss for no longer than a second or two. Just a brief press on the lips (mouth closed).

    Practice this often and move onto more advanced topics (like the head turned sidwise kiss, etc... haahahha)!


    Seriously... don't worry about it. You are going to have a blast!
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    Hey! That's good idea!!! I will do it every time we meet... first times it will be just a kiss for a second without tongues, and I will add some every new time...
    I hope I will get it to feel soon...

    Thanks!

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    >>Though in my world, I'm the main object.

    return 0;

    Whoops, looks like main is no more.

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    }

    now it is no more.


    in other news: kissing is cool. It's great to have a girl that you like like you back. too bad that the girl who i like and who likes me doesn't want to even talk to me in person anymore.. she was a rather weird person. heh. I'm just sitting back now, waiting for something to happen. Whenever i try to get to know some girl, it always ends up where she likes my best friend or she just doesn't want to grow up and thinks being my friend entails growing up.

    My luck isn't high. I wouldn't blame me.

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    > It was my first kissing in my life (I am 16),

    *Lets out sigh of relif* Thank god no I don't feel so bad.
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    > humourous trait in my voice loses

    myne doesn't!

    awwwwwww... how sweet........................
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