the first kiss- a question

**oskilian** · 12-09-2001

of course! but my question is: who should you seek? something like an equal or more like a complement?

Oskilian

**doubleanti** · 12-10-2001

does your equal complement you? does your complement equal you?

**oskilian** · 12-10-2001

was that a joke?

**nvoigt** · 12-10-2001

Nighttime is subjective. It's 7 in the morning here.

Complement or equal ? I don't know. I don't like the 'looking for' approach very much ( so I'm sitting in front of my PC alone, go figure

) At some point in life you will meet someone special. Maybe more than just once. I don't think anyone can be friends with his/her perfect equal. That would be boring. And noone can stand his perfect complement. So I guess it's a middle way as always

**oskilian** · 12-10-2001

>Nighttime is subjective. It's 7 in the morning here.
-YAWWWN- I know, it's quarter to two in the morning in here. What I meant is nighttime, I'm very passionate now. (I am not awake at this time just to be passionate, of course

)

Yeah, I agree with you. I think a middle would be very good (now that I think about it, "she" is a middle.

-siiiiiiigh-

Unchested Oskilian

**Series X4 1.0** · 12-10-2001

nvoigt

I don't think anyone can be friends with his/her perfect equal.

I can.

**mithrandir** · 12-10-2001

I don't believe in a perfect equal. To maintain a relationship is about finding balance with the other.

**The V.** · 12-10-2001

Find someone who is enough like you that you have things in common, but different enough from you to make things interesting.

And don't worry too much, romance is not like picking a horse/stock/whatever. It's not something you need to analyze.

**Aran** · 12-10-2001

I found a girl that is a good complement to me.. some day she may decide that she wants to do something with me, but for now it's a waiting game...

**Pendragon** · 12-10-2001

I don't believe in a perfect equal. To maintain a relationship is about finding balance with the other.

A relationship can't be too uneven though otherwise one side of the relationship may feel the other is not well-suited to them.
My last (and being only 17 years of age my first) truly serious relationship was fabulous whilst it lasted but, though we got on brilliantly we were, thought he, worlds apart. That's what split us in the end. Relationships should be as even as they can be without being identical.

-Pendragon

**lightatdawn** · 12-10-2001

Like life, a relationship (to me) is more about the journey then the destination. Since neither person involved really knows what the destination is anyhow, you might as well just focus on what you've got right now.

That's what split us in the end. Relationships should be as even as they can be without being identical.

Not every relationship is meant to be forever. Sometimes you can be in a relationship that was good while it lasted and good when it ended.

**Aran** · 12-10-2001

Some people have trouble because they realize that it's meaningless to live in the past, difficult to live in the present, and impossible to live in the future.

I don't care how hard it is to live here and now, i have to, and that is that. Now, if you'll excuse me, i'm going to enjoy myself whilst i needn't give myself away to someone.

**doubleanti** · 12-11-2001

>Relationships should be as even as they can be without being identical.

yeah, that's the thing... if you got a 'good' relationship with all the weird kinks and grooves... you might not realize it until you've lost it... since you're worrying too much about those said kinks and grooves...

for me... if your comin' with me, we're gonna have fun and relax and just rest... and that'll do it... sounds boring? it's not... just go out into this big ole' world and have a, er... blast...

**adrianxw** · 12-12-2001

Pendragon:

>>>
A relationship can't be too uneven though otherwise one side of the relationship may feel the other is not well-suited to them.
<<<

I don't believe that is true. To people can be even, and not well suited, similaly, two very different people can be well suited. I regard myself and my wife as very different, but think that together, we are a more complete unit and very well suited. She fills in some the gaps in me, I, in her, we are synergic.

Took me a long time and a lot of false, (although some quite enjoyable), starts to get this. For too long, I got involved with girls that were "even", possibly because it was this kind of person who crossed my path, but were not suited.

I met my current little diamond when I was doing something quite different from normal, with an entirely different set of people and rules.