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    From my point of view, starting from post one of this thread, it's the best thing that could possibly happen. She dumped you. She kissed someone else. She found out that you are the guy she really wants. Happy End. Make sure you get Hugh Grant for your role in the movie version.

    I guess it depends on what you feel and what you want to do. Please take what I say with a grain of salt, as I never was in your situation and, in addition, have dropped my own relationship best practices and morals as soon as I could have used them.

    Method 1: Unconditional Surrender
    Take her back. Live happily ever after.

    Method 2: Pout
    Reject her. Regret it.

    Method 3: Make sure she wants you
    Give her a certain timespan ( a month maybe ? ) to decide what she wants. Tell her that you won't date anyone in this timespan and you will wait for her answer. Don't take any answer before the timespan is up. Don't ask or even mind what she is doing in this timespan. If she wants you, proceed to step 1. If not... well, it would not have lasted for long anyway.

    Please note that Method 3 is the theory. I'm a weak willed coward myself and would immediatly try method 1.
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    how bout method 1 minus any signs of desperation... method 3 is a bad idea in my opinion, not knowing the situation... i dont see much in the way it would result in anything positive, PLUS depending on how you pull it off... with one she will be much happier knowing you will forgive her quickly and dont have to think over the relationship, i figure no matter what you tell her she will take it that way, and one translates to her that, a. you love her that much and b. you belive she loves you c. she can trust you more, and d. you care about her enough not to punish her, cause you realize shes already punishing herself... or something like that... bottom line, be understanding, see her side, she will love you for it.

    Relationships find strength in the tests of their bonds. or something Dr. Philish...

    Dr. Phil, Out.



    edit: apon reading that again... i realize need my own advice show...
    Last edited by no-one; 04-12-2005 at 12:16 PM.
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