Thread: Girls are crazy

On Saturday my girlfriend and I broke up. We'd been together for 18 months, and I moved interstate to Sydney for her, and then she decided she wanted to go home so I took out a loan to pay her for the furniture she was leaving behind. Then she calls up (a month after leaving) on Saturday to say she hasn't been in love with me for months and wants to end it.

Anyway when she called me, at the end of it she asked if she could come and stay with me for a few weeks when she comes back to Sydney. And she actually tried to make me feel bad for saying I wasn't sure it would be a good idea.

How can girls go from supposedly being in love with someone to being less than friends? And how can she expect me to adjust like that so quickly. We've tried it before when we broke up once - it's just hurts too much to be friends with someone and feel like its innapropriate to even hug them when you were with them for a good part of your mature life. How?!

Girls suck.

Edit: The two things I learned in the relationship:
1) Never try to help women when they are upset. Just tell them you're there for them, only help when they ask, because it just makes things worse.
2) Never put all your apples in one basket. I thought she was the person I was going to settle down with, she was my girlfriend, my best friend, and the only person I've ever been close to. Now she's gone I don't have any of that. Don't base your life around one person, it's too risky.

I concur.

-to clarify-
I concur with the first post.

Sorry to hear about your bad luck stove. Wish I had something insightful to say, but the best I can do is say I feel for ya buddy.

Girls: can't live with them, can't live without them.

EDIT:
I would honestly consider you completely crazy for having her stay with you, given the circumstances. If she stays with you, you're going to feel bad, little question about that. And why feel guilty about saying no? You aren't obligated to bend over backwards for anybody like that, even if you are in a relationship with somebody. If you say yes, don't say yes because she is "making" you feel guilty. It's 100% appropriate to not want to see her right now, I'm going through a similar situation.

i find girls are surprisingly good at acting like they dont care... especially when they are ........ed about something.

Originally Posted by Brian

every girl is a slut or a tease

Well, we have to have some way to guarantee the survival of the species.

Originally Posted by stovellp

We'd been together for 18 months
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with them for a good part of your mature life. How?!

not to try to make your relationship look like nothing, but I've been going out with the same girl for 34 months today... I would hardly say that 18 months is a "good part of your mature life". Try to look at it this way: you still have your entire life ahead of you. IMO, a one-year relationship, (or even a 1.5 year relationship) is a strong relationship (if it's been a consecutive year,year+.5), but is definately not something to bet your life on just yet...

Originally Posted by stovellp

I would really value an opinion from the point of view of a female.

Being 18 you have to realize that both of you are young yet and still learning about relationships. It is not easy to find someone who you click with so well that you will be willing to spend the rest of your life with them, let alone find that person before you really understand what that concept means.

Different people mature differently, some people never seem to mature, men seem to think that women never mature, and women seem to think that men never mature. I'm not saying it shouldn't hurt, but don't get too down over it. She realized that she did not want to be in the relationship and acted upon that realization. I'm sure she could have done it more gracefully and believe me I've been on the receiving end of someone dumping me painfully so I know the kind of pain you are in.

And, just because you met one girl who was young and immature and didn't treat you the way you would have liked to be treated doesn't mean all women are the same way. Give yourself some time, take away some objective lessons from this experience (try not to inject too much emotion into what you think happened because that *will* skew your perceptions) and you'll eventually find someone who you think you might click with to try again.