Thread: Personal problem

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H&R>>Where is you mom in all this? Is she someone you can talk to? Even just to say “Listen mom I can’t deal with this, I’m gonna stay with Billy-bob for a while let things settle down”.

My mother currently resides in one of middle eastern countries. She is not from around there. I tried to talk to her about taking me over there, but my father is a "J" (get it?), I would get killed there if they found out what nationality my Dad is. But my mom's husband is from middle east (won't mention the country), he would not mind me with him and his fammily but things could get iffy, I will have to learn the language all over.

And in the end, wouldn't we all agree that America is one of the best countries in the world to live in? I mean - I don't want to leave the country!

Xei>>I think that if he is physically abusing you that you should pick up any convenient, nearby, inanimate object and smash him upside the head repeatedly until he is no longer able to harm you.

It's kind of hard... He is twice the size, and pretty angry. Besides I have absolutely no advantage over him, I don't work out - not many geeks do!? - and I have never tried to fight back. Fighting back isn't my style, but when the last time this happened and I had an AK near by, I would for sure empty entire clip right there on the spot.

rick barclay>>Go live with your friend, and screw the law and your father.

Friend yes, screw the law no. If I leave to live at my friend's house - how's parents don't mind (I think) - I wan't so that my Dad has absolutely no controlll over me. Besides when I'll go to secretery of state and tell them If I can change my address they will probably tell me I need to be 18, but I don't know do you guys, can I change my address if not 18?

Waldo2k2>>If you move out, he'll probably report you missing or have hte cops come get you...to avoid all that ask your councelor at school to help you contact a CHILD ADVOCACY LAWYER. They work for free and can get you emancipated legally.

Yes, I think I'll do that, talk to a "CHILD ADVOCACY LAWYER". Do they have a site where I can e-mail them and tell them my problem and the solution that I want?

Xei>>Another solution may be to find someone (possibly from this board) and take a bus and stay with them for a while(if your father has such 'qualities' then he likely wont care where you went).

Who would ever go on that offer. I mean, that ok with me, I don't mind paying rent and such, but how much of security will I have with anyone I meet on this board, probably not much? So I'll stick with people I know (1 person) and then move to people I don't (lots).

kermi3>>He's doing something wrong, not you.

I don't know, I have been getting "E"'s in school so that is why he angry all the time at me, but why go physicall because of that?

Well, right now I'm really lost. I really just want to come home one of these days and put a piece of paper on my desk that would say that he is no longer responsible for me and that I can move out legally. And just leave the house that same day and move to my friend'.

I'm pretty sure that I won't be a pain in the butt, 'cause if I do move to my friends house I'll pay for things that is for sure. I think that helping around the house, maybe paying for DSL, filling up the fridge, , garbage service and some other things would make their life easier!? I do have a job and I can make quite a bit of money off my work, but not enough to support myself. I think that if I do move to my friend that it will be for about two years. It could get annoying for his parents, but after those two years I'm trying to get my butt into the Navy and make some money there, not to mention all the muscle that I'll get for a bonus on getting revenge on my dad. But I don't beleave in revenge.

After I go through the Navy, like about five years... I could get enough money and skills to go out on my own and do programming for Ensemble Studios - that's my long term goal! Microsoft could be a good goal too, but I'f I go there I'll try to take it over (without the use of force, the traditional way). Watch out Gates, here I come!

My ICQ is 199177950, just in case you want to say somehting personal, or just for fun.

> I don't know, I have been getting "E"'s in school so that is why he angry all the time at me

It doesn't matter. If he's hitting you for any reason, it's his fault, NOT yours. Don't give him excuses.

Where in MI, again?

>>Yes, I think I'll do that, talk to a "CHILD ADVOCACY LAWYER". Do they have a site where I can e-mail them and tell them my problem and the solution that I want?

lol, i put child advocacy lawyer in caps so that you wouldn't miss it.

I'm almost positive they work for the state, but im not sure, you'll have to get in touch with your counselor or something over that (or visit www.legalmatch.com to find one in your area)....oh btw, here's a list of people who have to contact DCFS or the police if you should talk to them about your dad:
* physicians
* psychiatrists, surgeons
* residents
* interns
* dentists
* dental hygienists
* medical examiners
* pathologists
* pathologists
* osteopaths
* coroners
* Christian Science practitioners
* chiropractors
* podiatrists
* registered and licensed practical nurses
* emergency medical technicians
* hospital administrators and other personnel involved in the examination
* care or treatment of patients
* teachers
* school personnel
* educational advocates assigned to a child pursuant to the School Code
* truant officers
* directors and staff assistants of day care centers and nursery schools
* child care workers
* truant officers
* probation officers
* law enforcement officers
* field personnel of the Departments of Children and Family Services
* Public Health, Public Aid
* Human Services (acting as successor to the Departmentof Mental Health & Developmental Disabilities Rehabilitation Services, or Public Aid)
* Corrections
* Human Rights

Liger -

You do not deserve to be hit.

Let me repeat that: You do not deserve to be hit.

Especially by your own father who should be there to support and help you.

You DO NOT have to make excuses for him. He's responsible for his own actions, not you. No matter what you do in school your father has no right to hit you. None whatsoever.

Remeber that - and if I were you I'd give some serious consideration to going to the authorities if he does it again. You may not be as strong as he is - but you shouldn't have to be. You shouldn't have to be scared of him. He's supposed to be your dad. Your mentor, someone you can trust and rely on. If he's chosen to give that up, then it's not your fault. It sucks big time, but it's not your fault. He chose to give that up when he hit you. You shouldn't have to sit there and be hit - no kid should.

You have the right not to be somewhere like that. You have the right to live somewhere where you can do well in schoool and go to the college you want. You have the right not to live afraid.

It's not your fault.

I still haven't done anything... Tomorow I'm going to school so I'll think again.

I really hate my parents in general. They didn't stick around for long enough to give me a good life. I guess they failed as parents. I kind of hate my mother too, because she went on and married another man - so did my dad (he didn't marry a man ), but I care less about him.

Now I'm basically stuck with dad who is crazy and step-mom who wants nothing to do with me exept use me in any way possible, mostly money.

Man my life us a mess, I just have come back from seeng Secondhand Lions, and that boy's mother is kind of like my own, kind of, my mom is not that big on the money, but she could not afford to support me neather.

Originally posted by Leeman_s
I would grab all of your money, and take off on your bike south, before it gets too cold. Find a job, at first live on the streets. Then perhaps move into an apartment or something.

Sad thing about this, I actually consider this one of my options!