Maybe India has the Chinese view - with over a billion people, they can afford to lose several hundred million. I don't know that's true, just a thought. That is/was the Chinese view.
I don't think either side realizes the devastation nukes would cause. It would be worse than Hiroshima/Nagasaki, and not just because the bombs are more powerful now. Those were one time events. Nukes now would be a prolonged tit for tat exchange.
Why anyone would blame the UK at this stage is beyond me. And no one has answered why India wants to hang on to Kashmir so badly, even if various injustices half a century ago did occur.
This is 2002, not 1947.
Take responsibility for your own actions. Don't blame people long dead for what you do now.