Thread: Blind date...Oh, my God!

I dunno, sometihng about online relationships seems so...so...desperate.

Collegegirl

>i've never been in an online relationship <& never will> <

never say never, you can never be sure about the next day.

KEN

same for you. you cannot plan something like that, it just happens
sometimes.

If somebody uses to lie on a chatroom, then she/he would probably do it in the real life, too.
Of course, in the real life one cannot say that he is an alterego of Brad Pitt (but, in reality he's more like Woody Allen) or she is a real beauty, while she's "overweight and smells funny" , but can (and probably everybody does so (?)) try to show his or her best parts. This is a lie as well, isn't it?

CollegeGirl >> "... i don't think i'll meet anyone i know from online <so sorry guys> "

Oh, yes, You can be sorry!

Ok, CollegeGirl, sin problemas! ;P


M y problem is, I don't like discos, and as I moved to Budapest just last year, also don't have so much friends yet as where I lived before.

Supermarkets, cinemas, metros - places where you don't really get the opportunity to meet a girl (and I'm not the "Hey, babe, wanna date with me?" type) .

The chat seemed to be a nice place to meet other people (actually, I've got some friends there, girls as well, but ...well, had no luck).

Still trying...

>> ober5861

"I think the chat can break down some barriers that open things up for discussion that would not be spoken otherwise... "

Yes, that's what I mean! It's a new kind of communication, which gives other, new perspectives : it's not like chatting on the phone, and certainly not like chatting "live". Everybody tells his/her opinion, without beeing interrupted in the middle of the phrase.

You gather more information, as you clearly see your chat partner's culture level, intelligence, sense of humour, character (misspelled words, smileys, usage of capitals, punctuation, the whole style) etc.

I've once had a girlfriend, she looked good, really, but when I first got a letter from her got really dissappointed... misspelled words, nearly no punctuation at all, no style - it was the moment I know her better. On the chat, I wouldn't even talk to such a person more then 5 minutes. We broke up soon (but not for this letter!)

Chatting can give you some additional information.
This plus is important for me, as I'd like a pretty AND intelligent partner (as I am )

CollegeGril
>i know for sure that i will never be in an online relationship even if i met a great guy online it won't be anything till i meet him in real life & i don't think i'll meet anyone i know from online <so sorry guys> J/K!!!!!!!!!!<

you are loosing the point. you can be sure for nothing. nothing
at all...

CollegeGirl:

"...you'll know them the way they want you to know them not the way they really are "

People nearly never show their true character, unless in real stress situation. We always play theatre, don't you think?
Or you always do show your *real* feelings?

Btw, there are some "signs" the other is fake, and you don't have to be a psycholog to detect whether he / she just plays a role.
At least, after weeks, months of online chatting...

maybe you'll get to know a person more while chatting online but then again you'll know them the way they want you to know them not the way they really are

We're all playing roles. And you are right, blatant lies are easier
to apply in a chatroom. Noone would ever be able to lie about
his/her gender in real life. But this isn't the point. If the person
lies, s/he would probably lie in real life, too. And if you know
what to look for it's as easy to spot in a chat.

Everyone leaves a trail. If all your chat-partner left on the net
is his nickname of 'GoddessOfLoveAndSex', it's most likely fake.
If you can get things that match, like a name and an email
account, and you can go to the homepage and see that a student
of this name does exist at the college s/he told you about, then
it's most likely just the truth.

I wouldn't chat to meet a partner though. It's like single parties
and I hate those. However, if your only means of communicating
without handing over your bank account to your local phone
company is chatting over the net, then why not ? If you know
your partner and s/he is away, it's perfectly right. Or would you
rather not talk at all ?

Oh, I see how it is collegirl! Our time together meant nothing! *runs off crying*

hehehe, but seriously. Online relationships are almost like saying "Well, I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN, so why not have my computer help me out?".

I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN

Yes, if you treat your online friends this way, you are right,
friendship or relationships are hardly possible. Even if all
you see is a computer screen, there is always a human being
behind it. The computer is just a way to communicate, like a
phone or letters or whatever.

>to lie about his/her gender in real life.

ahem... i would love to her this tangent... or a new thread on it...

>>hehehe, but seriously. Online relationships are almost like saying "Well, I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN, so why not have my computer help me out?".<<

well, if you look at it _that_ way it's cut and dry... [i'm not supporting either, it's just an interesting perspective...]