Modifying a while loop

How can this loop be modified so that the statement "Please select an item from the list." is only repeated 3 times, and after the third unsecessful try a new message is displayed, ex. " You can't follow instructions, Good Bye"

Code:

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while ((item != 1) && (item != 2) && (item != 3) && (item != 4))
 {
    cout << "Please select an item from the list." << endl ;
    cin >> item;
 }

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Add a counter called numGuesses, which gets incremented each time.

Code:

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while ( numGuesses < 3 && (item != 1) && (item != 2) && (item != 3) && (item != 4))
 {
    cout << "Please select an item from the list." << endl ;
    cin >> item;
    numGuesses++;
 }

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Use the value to alter your prompt