Blind date...Oh, my God!

You probably know, chating can become an obsession.
I love it, and whenever my computer struggles with a never-ending compiling process, I use the time to chat.
That's ok, but... :)
One day, I was chatting with a girl, she impressed me with her sense of humour and intelligence. Even sent me a photo.
You probably don't know, but hungarian girls are nearly all pretty, very few exceptions... She was also pretty in the photo, with her long brown hair, nice face, really good looking.
I said to myself, that's the girl of my dreams, and asked her for a date next day...
When I saw her *in reality*, nearly started to run away, but, you know, I'm a gentleman :). I suffered 1 (endless) hour long, felt very uncomfortable.
She was fat and moved like the Yeti! The photo she sent me was probably taken years before, there were some *vague* similarities, not more then after a serious car accident...;)

I think I'll never date again a chat-girl.

Any experiences? Positive or negative ones, just tell me I'm not alone with this...

Sorry, I've got only one experience of this kind, and that's all
positive. Believe me you can meet wonderful, beautiful
intelligent women where you expect it least. Even in boards like
this or ICQ. But then, I emailed and chatted 3 years with her
before meeting :p

Thanks, nvoigt. You mean, there's still a hope to meet the girl of my dreams through the net?
I must say, I'm still shocked :°), and need a break.

Yes, there is... though it might happen when you're least expecting it.

all chat girls are gonna be fat and if not fat then ignorant, dont waste yer time with that sorta sh**.

One of my best friends met a girl over the Internet and they "dated" for a couple years. She actually came to Michigan from California a couple times, and they talked about being in love and when they were gonna get married, etc....

But then, she went crazy.

(what, you wanted a happy ending?)

an old friend of mine actually met his wife in a chat room. he moved from maryland to pennsylvania to be with her. and eventually they had a kid. but even though she's extremely overweight , has a less desirable face, smells funny, and isn't too smart, she's a really nice person. so, there is hope... i guess.

Govtcheez, WayTooHigh, ggg

Ok, you made me decide... I guess I'll retreat to an empty carve somewhere in Tibet and meditate, alone, for the rest of my life, no more chat (oops, chatting right now °)), no more Windows, no more programming, no more X-ray :)

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I guess I'll retreat to an empty carve somewhere in Tibet and meditate, alone, for the rest of my life, no more chat (oops, chatting right now °)), no more Windows, no more programming, no more X-ray :)

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you could do that. but then again, you could always resort to masturbation. :D

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you could do that. but then again, you could always resort to masturbation.

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I've heard it's healthy! No AIDS, no unwanted pregnancy, no potence problems :D

Btw, from time to time, I'd visit the surrounding villages, a few $, and I were probably the king!
And all those women know Kama-Sutra! :P

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One of my best friends met a girl over the Internet and they "dated" for a couple years. She actually came to Michigan from California a couple times, and they talked about being in love and when they were gonna get married, etc....
But then, she went crazy.

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She probably continued flirting with other men, too.
It never comes to an end ;)

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She probably continued flirting with other men, too.
It never comes to an end

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I don't think so - I met her and she didn't seem like that kind of person... Just... unstable.

Damn.... at this time i would say something bad for women...
but many many people from here would become bad at me :(

anyway, mr carlos :) i agree that hungarian women are VERY
very beautiful...i know that :)

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it's %99.99 lies

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No. It can be 100% lies. Or it can be 100% truth.
Just like any relationship.

But as with any relationship, I wouldn't go out to single
parties or chat with girls to find a date.

I meet my wife in a chatroom. about five years ago. I lived in Sweden and she in USA. We chated for about 1.5 years. She come over on vacation. I went over there acouple of times. I moved here and we got married. So fare it been a happy relationship and the lesson is that you can meet your life mate on the net
~Barjor

I dunno, sometihng about online relationships seems so...so...desperate.

Collegegirl

>i've never been in an online relationship <& never will> <

never say never, you can never be sure about the next day.

KEN

same for you. you cannot plan something like that, it just happens
sometimes.

If somebody uses to lie on a chatroom, then she/he would probably do it in the real life, too.
Of course, in the real life one cannot say that he is an alterego of Brad Pitt (but, in reality he's more like Woody Allen) or she is a real beauty, while she's "overweight and smells funny" ;), but can (and probably everybody does so (?)) try to show his or her best parts. This is a lie as well, isn't it?

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CollegeGirl >> "... i don't think i'll meet anyone i know from online <so sorry guys> "

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Oh, yes, You can be sorry! :p

Ok, CollegeGirl, sin problemas! ;P


M y problem is, I don't like discos, and as I moved to Budapest just last year, also don't have so much friends yet as where I lived before.

Supermarkets, cinemas, metros - places where you don't really get the opportunity to meet a girl (and I'm not the "Hey, babe, wanna date with me?" type) :) .

The chat seemed to be a nice place to meet other people (actually, I've got some friends there, girls as well, but ...well, ;) had no luck).

Still trying...

I personally won't say that online "dating" is the best way to go, however, I think it is a place that can provide a healthy way to strengthen a relationship. I once met a girl while out at my university in Michigan.. she had a boyfriend at the time, so we talked some...

From that point, we stayed friends and continued to keep in touch.. just recently they broke up, and we met up again with some other friends of mine... we started talking online again and I've been out to see her in Ohio (where she lives) several times since.. and we continue to talk online..

I know more about her and know her better as a person than I've known some girls that I've dated in person for an entire summer. I think the chat can break down some barriers that open things up for discussion that would not be spoken otherwise... so personally, to all you who don't believe in it.. :p

>> ober5861

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"I think the chat can break down some barriers that open things up for discussion that would not be spoken otherwise... "

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Yes, that's what I mean! It's a new kind of communication, which gives other, new perspectives : it's not like chatting on the phone, and certainly not like chatting "live". Everybody tells his/her opinion, without beeing interrupted in the middle of the phrase.

You gather more information, as you clearly see your chat partner's culture level, intelligence, sense of humour, character (misspelled words, smileys, usage of capitals, punctuation, the whole style) etc.

I've once had a girlfriend, she looked good, really, but when I first got a letter from her got really dissappointed... misspelled words, nearly no punctuation at all, no style - it was the moment I know her better. On the chat, I wouldn't even talk to such a person more then 5 minutes. We broke up soon (but not for this letter!) ;)

Chatting can give you some additional information.
This plus is important for me, as I'd like a pretty AND intelligent partner (as I am :D )

CollegeGril
>i know for sure that i will never be in an online relationship even if i met a great guy online it won't be anything till i meet him in real life & i don't think i'll meet anyone i know from online <so sorry guys> J/K!!!!!!!!!!<

you are loosing the point. you can be sure for nothing. nothing
at all...

I agree wholeheartedly.. I think talking through a chat situation is a reflection of a person's intelligence, and I think that is one of the most important things to me as far as finding a compatible woman. There are so many things that can be found and learned from chatting that most likely would not have been revealed otherwise... and I'm just restating what I said before and what carlos said, so I'm going to shutup and go back to work now... :D

oh... and BTW, Collegegirl... would you go to dinner with me? :) I will provide any information you feel necessary, free of lies and false impressions through pictures. I'll send you a current pic.

HAHAHAHA... :cool:

CollegeGirl:

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"...you'll know them the way they want you to know them not the way they really are "

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People nearly never show their true character, unless in real stress situation. We always play theatre, don't you think?
Or you always do show your *real* feelings?

Btw, there are some "signs" the other is fake, and you don't have to be a psycholog to detect whether he / she just plays a role.
At least, after weeks, months of online chatting...

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maybe you'll get to know a person more while chatting online but then again you'll know them the way they want you to know them not the way they really are

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We're all playing roles. And you are right, blatant lies are easier
to apply in a chatroom. Noone would ever be able to lie about
his/her gender in real life. But this isn't the point. If the person
lies, s/he would probably lie in real life, too. And if you know
what to look for it's as easy to spot in a chat.

Everyone leaves a trail. If all your chat-partner left on the net
is his nickname of 'GoddessOfLoveAndSex', it's most likely fake.
If you can get things that match, like a name and an email
account, and you can go to the homepage and see that a student
of this name does exist at the college s/he told you about, then
it's most likely just the truth.

I wouldn't chat to meet a partner though. It's like single parties
and I hate those. However, if your only means of communicating
without handing over your bank account to your local phone
company is chatting over the net, then why not ? If you know
your partner and s/he is away, it's perfectly right. Or would you
rather not talk at all ? :p

Oh, I see how it is collegirl! Our time together meant nothing! *runs off crying*

hehehe, but seriously. Online relationships are almost like saying "Well, I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN, so why not have my computer help me out?".

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I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN

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Yes, if you treat your online friends this way, you are right,
friendship or relationships are hardly possible. Even if all
you see is a computer screen, there is always a human being
behind it. The computer is just a way to communicate, like a
phone or letters or whatever.

>to lie about his/her gender in real life.

ahem... i would love to her this tangent... or a new thread on it...

>>hehehe, but seriously. Online relationships are almost like saying "Well, I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN, so why not have my computer help me out?".<<

well, if you look at it _that_ way it's cut and dry... [i'm not supporting either, it's just an interesting perspective...]