I have read the following since I began learning and practicing C++ a few months back:
Tony Gaddis - Starting Out With C++ Second Edition Alternate
Deitel & Deitel - C++ How to Program Third Edition
The Deitel book is the best, however, I find it is good for learning rather than looking up quick references.
I use SGI for STL, but it there are few examples except for containers.
What is the more complete C++ reference that any serious programmer should definitely have?