I'm Devastated

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    I'm Devastated

    Hi guys.

    I need help.

    And before you guys go "ah, not another one", please read on.

    Me and my girl firend broke up after 2 years (would have been exactly 2 years on 7 april).

    Her exuse is that she wants to meet other people ad go out and all that stuff. Oh yeah, she doesnt know if I'm the right one!! For crying out loud!!! What the hell is that? After 2 years and now just suddenly?

    I know that she loves/loved me but still.

    I just dont get it. why did she suddenly start having these doubts?

    Well, her parents decideded to get devorced a month ago, an her aunts marriage is falling apart as well. Could that perhaps have trigered this?

    Al I know is that I would do anything o get her back.


    *edit* thanks for listening
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    mov.w #$1337,D0 Jeremy G's Avatar
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    Start dating immediatly.
    Tape yourself in the act of "love" with your new girlfriend.
    Have your room mate accidently mail it to her.
    Find out, and set out on a wild and crazy road trip to get to your girlfriends and intercept the package.
    Realize you really love your new girl friend, and resolve your relationship with your ex nicely.
    End of story.
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    There isn't much you can do. Talk to her. Better yet, listen to her. If she wants to break up, she will do. If she has some doubts now and regrets them later, make sure you don't move more than one continent away just in case she wants to come over and talk in the future.

    Oh... and don't take advice from guys on the internet who never had continuous 2-year relationships in the first place
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    2 years is nothing really. How old are you?

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    2 years is nothing really. How old are you?
    I'm 23...not a school kid anymore, Had plenty of long term relationships...this one being the one I actually love the partner
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeremy G
    Start dating immediatly.
    Tape yourself in the act of "love" with your new girlfriend.
    Have your room mate accidently mail it to her.
    Find out, and set out on a wild and crazy road trip to get to your girlfriends and intercept the package.
    Realize you really love your new girl friend, and resolve your relationship with your ex nicely.
    End of story.
    This is a good idea. Tom Green is a relationship expert.

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    This is a good idea. Tom Green is a relationship expert.

    Don't know about that eh?....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeremy G
    Start dating immediatly.
    Tape yourself in the act of "love" with your new girlfriend.
    Have your room mate accidently mail it to her.
    Find out, and set out on a wild and crazy road trip to get to your girlfriends and intercept the package.
    Realize you really love your new girl friend, and resolve your relationship with your ex nicely.
    End of story.
    Heh, saw that movie too.

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    Time heals all wounds.

    Try not to do anything you'd regret later like begging to have her back. There are plenty of great gals out there to meet, and you'll get over this eventually.

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    Here's a 5 step plan to recovery:

    1) Evaluate your current position. Is she the only girl you will every be able to get?
    2) Evaluate your surroundings. Could this be a new lease on life? There are many fish in the sea.
    3) REALLY evaluate your previous relationship. Was she good to you? Was there any hint of "the next level"? Had you made future plans at all?
    4) Drink.
    5) Drink.

    If 1-3 fails to lead you to any true conclusion that one girl will not ruin your life and that there are others, please repeat steps 4 and 5 until that conclusion becomes apparent.

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    Just give it time and follow your gut/heart. Once again, don't rush anything, give it some time and follow your gut/heart. After having time to breathe and think about it, your emotions will hopefully tell you what the answer is.

    I've been with the same girl for over 3 years. I want to rail everyone in sight.
    The world is waiting. I must leave you now.

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    Hey man, I think we have all been there or in a similar situation at some point in our lives. I don't pretend to have some special advice regarding these situations, but I do hope that you aren't feeling so bad that the rest of your life suffers. I personally run when I'm sad or upset, maybe a good idea.

    I don't think it is such a good idea to post personal stuff on the internet like this, because there are a lot of insensitive people that will help you feel worse.
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    I just got out of a simliar situation man, all I can say is if they want space, give it to them, but call them once in a while for small talk, see how they're doing. From that point try to at least be friends, maybe something will rematerialze after time, maybe not. The point is if you care about eachother you owe it to yourselves to keep in eachothers lives in some form or another. Don't forget steps 4 and 5 of cheez's guide to breakups, those are the most important
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    > Don't forget steps 4 and 5 of cheez's guide to breakups, those are the most important

    Credit where credit's due. That was ober, not me. My steps are something like
    1.Drink
    2.Drink
    3.Drink
    4.Drink
    5.Cry

    Also, don't feel you need to call her. I haven't spoken to my last girlfriend in months, and to be honest, I like it better this way. She can stay with her 35 year old boyfriend with two kids, as far as I'm concerned. Just as long as they stay away from me.

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    I think drinking is probably the worst way to handle these situations. I really hope you guys are joking. I drink a lot but doing so when you are very sad is a bad idea.
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