I'm Devastated

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    Why are you ignoring me, Bubba? My love is pure!
    Erm...no comment.

    edit: I don't have tits or wheels!
    Then I'm not interested.

    Answered your own question.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoD
    Usher - Let it burn.mp3
    HAHAHAAHAHA

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    Exactly.... talking with her is only going to make you jealous, whether she is lying or not. I went through that, and I basically just stopped talking to her and even ignored her when she tried to contact me a few months later.

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    ditto ober, i had to completely cut ober from my life in the last two months to get over her. It's been rough but its better than if i was speaking to her, try to not even think bout her.

    Another good song is Crossfade - Cold and Papa Roach - Scars

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    err cut lauryn from my life.....wow creepy.

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    Freudian slips are awesome.

    I'm trying to cut everybody out of my life right now because I won't see a lot of them again for quite some time, and this involves several girls. Not as bad as going for a breakup after a two year relationship though.
    See you in 13

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoD
    ditto ober, i had to completely cut ober from my life in the last two months to get over her. It's been rough but its better than if i was speaking to her, try to not even think bout her.

    Another good song is Crossfade - Cold and Papa Roach - Scars
    so that's why you haven't been returning my calls. YOU BASTARD!

    And you don't even think about me? Did our love mean nothing!?


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    lmfao o that aint right....

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    Awe man people, don't go and tell him she's lying when you don't even know her.

    One of the major problems with most (note I said most) breakups is that if you're the one who was perfectly happy and content, you tend to equate "I was happy and all was well" with "We were happy, so some other outside force must have caused it to happen". It's human nature and ego, and quite common. Persnal ego makes you believe that if it weren't an outside force causing the breakup, then the only alternative is that they found some fault in you personally (a notion harder to accept), which is flawed logic itself but hard to see through when your emotions run rampant. Let's face it, breakups hurt.

    And if you think about it... suppose she did tell you what she went out and did. Suppose she just went out by herself to socialize, or suppose she went out with casual friends, or just went out with the girls, or even just went out and caught a movie. Would you have taken it at face value as the truth? Or would you have checked up on her, as (let's face it) you did? In my experience, no matter what she does, you will find it difficult to accept that she can go on in life without you. And for a while you will resent that, it's natural. Perhaps she did just tell you a little white lie, trying to spare you some misery. She probably knows you better than most, and can predict how you will react.

    One of the more difficult breakups I've had myself, it was explained to me by her that she wasn't feeling happy in her life, and while she was contemplating what she wanted to do with her life she had to ask herself what she needed to do and have to make it happen. And unfortunately I was in the way of making it happen (even though I was convinced I could and would support her in anything she wanted to do). A serious blow to the ego I'll tell ya. However today I'm casually dating, haven't landed in any serious relationships yet, and I find I have more respect for her than most people I know simply for her candor. And we talk as good friends now (however it took well over a year before that happened) and there are no regrets on my part, nor resentments.

    Please don't take this as criticism, as that is not the intent, however I feel the need to be a little blunt when I say... After she broke up with you, it's really none of your business what she's doing and you really have no right to check up on her. And she's under no obligation to keep you informed as to her activities.

    I know it hurts, and it really sucks to feel the way you do. As others here have already said, the best advice is to move on. It seems difficult to see or believe it possible now, but eventually you will get over it, and eventually you will meet somebody else.
    Last edited by Scribbler; 04-07-2005 at 08:59 AM.

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    I thought maybe I should add another point in here about my worst breakup... the next major relationship I landed in ended up being the love of my life and my current wife (ooh lookie... it ryhmes).

    Her next major relationship (which I've been updated on by my sister-in-law because they went to the same college) ended up with her being pregnant to a complete ............... There was some rumors that they either went off and had an abortion or they gave the baby up for adoption... I don't know for sure and I'm not about to perputrate a rumor. I believe they are now married and live about 3 states away... both of them working very hard just to pay off school debt. I haven't talked to her since about 6 months after the breakup when I decided enough was enough. I don't ever plan to again. It's just weird how situations can turn out.

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    > Awe man people, don't go and tell him she's lying when you don't even know her.

    Well, she was lying about at least one part; she wasn't where she said she would be when he asked. I agree that it wasn't his business where she was, though.

    > (ooh lookie... it ryhmes).

    Man, you are such a fag.

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    I didn't try it... it just happened.

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    Is that how you feel about me, IT JUST HAPPENED????

    And you wonder why i dont call!

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    Ok... really. We have to stop. People are going to think I have teh ghey.

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    *hug*

    edit:

    A girl I really wanted to have a relationship just married a marine on my birthday (feb 28). I got over it. But, I also think I'm not particularly sensitive so somebody else may have been devastated by it.
    Last edited by Darkness; 04-07-2005 at 06:50 PM.
    See you in 13

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