How do you deal with people who don't want to communicate?

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    Originally posted by Silvercord
    i often don't feel like talking to people. I hate it when people can't take hints and instead of leaving me alone pry for answers and stuff.
    Hahahaha. I just noticed that I gave you they gay .

    As for seriescrystalzewu, I think your friend has a thing for you.

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    Originally posted by -KEN-
    As for seriescrystalzewu, I think your friend has a thing for you.
    Actually......he's gay.

    Oh well, I thought ppl would be too judging if I'd said that at first:P

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    Most of us hang out over at FD also, were not going to judge gay people.

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    Ok, sorry. Guess I was judging you too hard :/

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    I was going to say something about killing gays and jews but then I decided that that would be crossing some sort of a 'line' that should not be crossed. I mean, I don't want to become more unpopular than president bush do I?

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    Re: How do you deal with people who don't want to communicate?

    Originally posted by Zewu
    Please read this dialogue that I had with a person on MSN:

    me: hey, check out all these DVD's on this URL: *URL*
    him: I know
    him: why aren't you answering???
    me: what is there for me to answer to then? I am sorry if I have missed something
    him: never mind about it then!
    me: but what do you mean? I don't understand this...........are you mad at me? Have I done something?
    him: never mind!
    me: ok, so you are not mad at me then?
    him: yes I am
    me: ok, can you let me know why?
    him: no

    After this, he most likely blocked me.

    It kind of gives me panic when I have done something that I can't even know what it is, and that I can't consider apologizing for it. It does at the same time feel very frustrating to me, and I feel that I have more reason to be rude to this person than he has to me.

    Anyway, how do you think that I should deal with this person the next time I get the chance to talk to him? Serious answers please

    that guys an ass


    or like he hasnt had contact with other *humans*

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    How do I deal with people like that? Well, apparently I date them. I've a had a conversation like that countless times with several girlfriends. I think because we're programmers, we tend to be much more practical than the rest of the population. If I have something to say to someone, I will gladly talk to them. I will continue to talk to them until I run out of things to say. Then, there's silence. Then, the nagging from the other end, whether the medium be phone or IM. Females don't seem to understand that sometimes I just don't really have anything to say.

    As for your situation, I've been there many times with girlfriends, but never with a male friend. I'd suggest just explaining that you had nothing more to contribute to the conversation. If he doesn't understand that, I don't have a clue what to do. I guess just hope that he continues to put up with you :P
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    > I think because we're programmers, we tend to be much more practical than the rest of the population.

    Just say it. We're better than everyone.

    Don't you feel better now?

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    >>Don't you feel better now?

    Tons. Want to help me take over the world? You can be mt drunken assistant chez!

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