What would you do ?

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    What would you do ?

    Last night i graduated, off course we went to party later on. Then this girl wich i already know 5 years because thats when she first came into my class.
    Anyway last night she came up on me, trying to get me in the sack.
    But just because i know her that long i just couldnt, especially because she has a rep of being one moment with one guy and the other with another guy. + Im leaving in a month to Nigeria for a year and i just couldnt do it because i know ill hurt someone feelings and then ill be off foe a year.. Just didnt seemed fair to me at the moment. So last night i didnt explained that to her but i think she understood wut i ment.

    Right now shes talking to me on Msn (she just said hey im alone this week because my parents are on holiday etc...).

    Anyway i relly dont know what to do because mostly i take advantage of every situation,wich i could do righht now. But then theres something moral in me taht says dont do it coz else you'll leave to Nigeria for a year hurting someone feelings....
    And when ill leave i want to be as close to everyone as i was in the past ...

    Kindof hard to explain... but i just neededto put it down somewhere,
    hope you understand.

    ::edit::
    i already told her that i want to talk about what happened last night, because i really wanna explain why i acted that way, but i think that when the moment comes she'll be there doing the same like last nite, ya know....
    grtz,

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    Last edited by GanglyLamb; 06-28-2003 at 07:16 AM.

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    just don't do it if you have doubts. You might not only hurt someones feelings but you may also make it hard for yourself.
    Leaving for a year, not knowing what is goin on.
    I would avoid situations like that since i sincerly hate them.
    They can nag you down as you wouldn't believe !
    also, sex shouldn't be about takin advantage of someone.
    If that's the situation, leave it.
    I understand what you're going thru, and situations like that
    are NOT easy! A part of you wants to, but another part holds you
    back and makes you feel guilty.


    just a piece of friendly advice

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    I know but im so confused at the moment.

    I know i shouldnt start something with her, on the otherhand i feel like i want to. But then i think about the fact that im leaving for a year...

    Aaaah this stinks...

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    she has a rep of being one moment with one guy and the other with another guy.
    Well you definitely don't want to start any kind of relationship with her because 1. your leaving and 2. she could be a slut. But if she just wants sex and she knows that nothing more will come of it, then go for it.

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    2. she could be a slut. But if she just wants sex and she knows that nothing more will come of it, then go for it.
    Thats the thing where ive got my doubts, is she serious this time or am I just another 24h/love in her life.

    Well could be I see her tonight, before shes able to do something ill try to talk to her... thing is im not a subtil being, whatever ill c what she says tonight when i meet her in the club.

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    Just remember since you're leaving it isn't worth starting a serious relationship with her IMO. But hey just sex is great. This is of course all coming from a guy who has zero female skills, so take my advice with a grain of salt hehe. Goodluck

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    Never thought that i would pain my brain over something like this, mostly its because i just cant find a bug in my code....

    Ah im off, ill just c what happens tonite....

    grtz

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    To be completely honest, i'd punch her in the face.

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    the only reason we are here today is because of horny people. It is like you are spitting in the face of our existence by refusing to get your pole waxed.

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    You should be in my place, kindoff hard to imagine tough.

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    Try one of these...:

    I like you as a friend.
    I don't speak English.
    I'm married to the sea.
    I don't want to kill you, but I will.
    Six simple words: "I'm not gay, but I'll learn."

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    Here's one perspective from the other side. I mostly agree with btq: someone here is being used, and it's going to be you if you're not careful. At best, maybe you both could use each other, but do you really want that? Girls can be playas as much as guys, and a year from now when you get back, what will you think about all this? Will you think: "I'm glad I took this risk", or "What the hell was I thinking?"

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    Well, if you both know that it will not last any longer than a month, no reason not to have to fun in the time left. Just make sure you are both aware of it. Your intention not to hurt someone is noble, but remember that it's not only her, it's you as well Find out what you want, wether it corresponds with her wishes and proceed accordingly
    hth
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