Thread: What should I do?

Ok, here's the deal. I'm a nerd/geek in 8th grade and I am openly treated like $$$$. Wether it be attacked about being a teachers pet(though I am not at all) or, get this c++ geek(though, from spending a day here I can barely vauge for that). For what ever reason I've tried to ignore, but they just come right back, day after day, year after year, it's become extremely annoying. I've tried everything from talking to them to complete silence. Literally, one day I didn't speak all day, while in school. Except for the 2 periods I have with my friends. Now, I'm not violent person, just in case you were wondering. So, no worries there. I'm not looking for a councelor or some sort of teachers association that I can use to tattle on alot of basterds but... I'm wondering:

Was(is?) this the same case for you?

What do you suggest?

Should I just wait it out until i'm in college or working where I'm with people like me?

Now i'm not complaining, I'm just curious and ........ed off. Oh, and, hello.

I used to get this in grade school, not in high school, im cool with girls, the guys, most of the teachers, etc.

I'm in chorus, but they pretty much resent me. I hope to meet some fellow "nerds" (if that is even politically correct) next year in high school.

The key is to not let it bother you. Go along with whatever those people are saying. If they call you a nerd, then go "damn, you're right I am a nerd; thanks for reminding me". What satisfaction can they get from that? If they're not getting any satisfaction out of bothering you, then they're not going to bother you. It comes down to not caring about what other people think about you. If they don't like you, then that's their problem. Be who you are, and be proud of who you are. There's nothing else you can do besides that.

It's not calling me a nerd.... Hell, I love being a nerd. But what ........es me off is when they make up $$$$. It ........es me off even more, when people believe them.

You could try going to an adult to get help, but I don't know how effective that would be (barely worked for me). I got picked on a lot until ninth grade. I'm not really trying to persuade you to fight, but I got picked on a lot until I hit a guy in the face in geography class, and then hit another kid on the bus, and then there were at least two others I hit (one I shot with a paintball gun and kicked in the side). Ok, what I'm trying to say is if you don't fight you can try going to an adult, but for all intents and purposes if you don't fight, suck it up and live with it.

You could wait it out. It won't exactly become better freshman year; however, as time goes on, most mature people become more understanding of other's interests. I found that as the years went on during high school, people become more experienced and generally become more accepting. You can also always choose your friends, and not mind those that treat you bad.

The reason I say it doesn't magically always become better in high school during freshman year is that, unless you move, you will most likely go to the same school that a lot of the people you know in middle school will go to.

one last tidbit:
don't go to online chat rooms to get advice on serious issues.

Thanks for all of your advise. I'm pondering what to do, and all of your options seem valid. But only one seems affective. I'll keep thinking about it. Thanks again.

Just want to add that I read techwins post and yea, that goes with doing nothing, and that "might" work, depends what kind of person you are.

No, this isn't the do "nothing" method. This is the I don't give a .......... what the .......... you think method.

But what ........es me off is when they make up $$$$. It ........es me off even more, when people believe them.

Well, don't let anything they say bother you. If you don't give them the satisfaction, then they're not going to do it.

Basically, my method, and it worked is to just don't tell them you know a lot of computers. I've found that people resent you for awesome skills they don't have. So I just keep my programming skills tucked away when I'm with people and I get along just fine at school and when out with friends. When they ask, I just say, "Yea, I do some computer stuff just a bit. It's fun and better than watching some stupid survivor show on TV." They're cool with that. Now I am known/"friend-ed" throughout the school. Be happy-looking, don't look like you just got out of bed and don't speak softly or quietly.

Now I've had some confrontations before, not because of my computer skills, but because some people are just ..........tards. They are few and far in between and when they come, just show them who's boss. They make fun of you, don't swear back. Thats the worst thing you can do. Use your brain, think before you say anything. Swearing makes them happy, saying something intellectual (not nerdy though), is extremely effective.

I was ummm, I dunno, "average" until high school when I tried this new policy. It's worked amazingly, expecially with girls . I recommend it.

PS: I'm in 10th grade.