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  • I think it's shocking

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  • I don't think it's shocking

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  • That age is TOO YOUNG

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  • I don't think that's too young

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  • The thought disgusts me

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  • The act of sex is something that is difficult to define(I'm neutral)

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This is a discussion on Shocking(kind of) within the A Brief History of Cprogramming.com forums, part of the Community Boards category; Sex @ 12 & 13 years old. Kids today are very brief and blunt with sex. We have more demanding ...

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    Shocking(kind of)

    Sex @ 12 & 13 years old.

    Kids today are very brief and blunt with sex. We have more demanding terms than our parents had. For one, "hand jobs" and "blow jobs" are considered small potatoes. I believe in this, but that's just me.

    I found it very interesting, and shocking at the number of middle school/junior high kids having sexual intercourse.

    How do you feel about this?
    (Keep this thread CLEAN so we can discuss a WIDE spread issue with maturity)

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    20/20 was interesting tonight, and I just saw that which caused me to post this.
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    LOL im an eighth grader myself and nothing like that goes on at my school - atleast nothing that I know of
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    Originally posted by abrege
    LOL im an eighth grader myself and nothing like that goes on at my school - atleast nothing that I know of
    Oh no doubt it goes on.
    Survey at the high school where I attend yeilded 50% of the students had had sex by the end of grade 11.
    Edit:: Oh, and personally... I think 12-13 is too young. For one, you haven't even learned about it yet (unless your parents taught you) and two, kids that age are most likely not physically mature enough to be doing it.
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    > Survey at the high school where I attend yeilded 50% of the students had had sex by the end of grade 11.
    20/20 said 48% of highschool students are having sex.

    Some, AT SCHOOL. Which, I don't doubt because back when I was in high school(bout 3-4 years ago), I often heard stories of kids doing just that in emptied rooms, or rooms that weren't being used for instruction.(If it matters, I'm a US citizen) What shocked me though, was, kids are doing oral sex, when a CLASS IS GOING ON. Kids WATCH and that's all going on during class.
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    I believe 12 - 13 years old is too young to be having sex. Afterall, kids that young are not mature enough to have kids. They wouldn't be able to support the baby, where will they get the money; that's considering that the girl would be able to go through pregnancy. It happens though.

    It does happen though, and especially at that age, people aren't going to go bragging about it because of the fear of getting in trouble with their parents.

    On a side note, there are kids as young as twelve that are smoking marijuana with their parents. My friends have seen it at a James Taylor concert. The toughest part is that parents are partaking in this activity with their kids.

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    Originally posted by Shadow
    > Survey at the high school where I attend yeilded 50% of the students had had sex by the end of grade 11.
    20/20 said 48% of highschool students are having sex.

    Some, AT SCHOOL. Which, I don't doubt because back when I was in high school(bout 3-4 years ago), I often heard stories of kids doing just that in emptied rooms, or rooms that weren't being used for instruction.(If it matters, I'm a US citizen) What shocked me though, was, kids are doing oral sex, when a CLASS IS GOING ON. Kids WATCH and that's all going on during class.
    Wow, I haven't ever witnessed that occur while a class was in session. I've heard of people sneaking out to go to the bathroom or something (rarely) but not in the same room with a teacher or other students.

    edit: I know it happens quite a bit, but I said rarely because I haven't personally seen it during one of my classes. I've heard quite a number of stories though (some true, some not).

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    I'm not going to express my views here. I'm busy, i will later . But I'd like to say that I respext this topic and this thread, and I thank Shadow for requestiong it stay clean, I know that you truely mean that and that you didn't post this with the intent of it getting dirty,

    I will reiderate what he said though. I think this is a serious and good topic, but Keep it clean or I'll close this faster than you can click reply .



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    > ...No offense Shadow.
    Hey, none taken.

    > I think this is a serious and good topic,
    That's why I posted it.

    > I'm not going to express my views here. I'm busy, i will later
    You aren't fooling anybody.
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    > Afterall, kids that young are not mature enough to have kids. They wouldn't be able to support the baby,
    Depo is 99.9% effective. That's the same effectiveness of many parent situations where one parents gets "fixed". Depo is just as effective as male sterilization.

    ..Not that I'm recommending such activities, but, I'm sure that even goes on.
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    Originally posted by Shadow
    > Afterall, kids that young are not mature enough to have kids. They wouldn't be able to support the baby,
    Depo is 99.9% effective. That's the same effectiveness of many parent situations where one parents gets "fixed". Depo is just as effective as male sterilization.

    ..Not that I'm recommending such activities, but, I'm sure that even goes on.
    I'm sure it does as well; however, kids in middle school shouldn't even have to know about such things. Plus, (there may be, but most wouldn't) who amongst 12 year olds would have the money for the drug. Boys could be getting condoms somehow. But also, there is a strong likelihood that not everyone is using some kind of protection.

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    > But also, there is a strong likelihood that not everyone is using some kind of protection.
    I agree. I'm with the vote that says that's too young. I think upper highschool isn't _so bad_ but that's still young.

    It's still kind of shocking to me, I did, when I was 17....and, I'm a late bloomer!!!
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    from some of the sexual adventures some of the people i know (note: not friends) tell me about, it really isn't shocking that i have found this out.

    Kids are ridiculous these days, they know far much more than they are apt to handle and it may become a big problem in the future if it isn't corrected or dealt with correctly by parents.

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    > dealt with correctly by parents.
    What is correct?

    Commanding?
    I think not. For one, a good outcome of that which most people will think of, is rebellion right off the bat. After all, humans do not deal with surpression very well. The human brain, just doesn't deal with it very good.

    I do think it should be dealt with correctly though.

    Topics should include:
    The right time(no, not mid/late 20's)
    The right person
    Safely
    Make sure you know, and FEEL it's right, deep inside
    Make sure you can handle all other aspects

    NOTE: The last one assumes the person would actually keep the child if they were to become pregnant. Now, I don't want an adoption/abortion discussion getting started. I'm not stating my opinion on that, and I think you should follow suit. Please, thank you.
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    I know this was happening so that is not shocking, but it is to young, way to young. One of my freinds 15 though she was pregnant , and another one of my freinds a senior has kid.
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    Everyone is talking about how the children aren't physically mature enough yet and such, I disagree. The average age for girls to begin puberty is 9 years old, first menstration at 12.5 yrs, for boys it is 10 years old, with first ejactulation at 13 years old. Here's the important thing to note, these are averages, they are as much as + or - 3 years. Moreover, boys are capable of getting erections even in infancy, and bottom line that's the most important physical requirement. It is quite possible that the kids can be physically mature enough, however I do not believe that they can be emotionally mature enough.

    Here's a hypothetical:

    Two kids, say in 6th grade. For terms of discussion we'll say they've had health class, but it doesn't really matter. They know what sex is. They know that other kids do it, they know that it is promoted by mass media. It is the cool thing. They do it. For purposes of conversation we will say that they are not capable of getting pregnant, though it is quite possible. Now these two kids have no clue what they're doing, but things go pretty much as you might expect. Now what?

    You can assume fairly safely that this isn't a "serious" relationship. You can also assume that these kids are almost in shock. This is a big deal. There are several things that could happen here:

    One or both of them may hate it, but this is what pop culture and older kids say you're supposed to do, and since they have no expirence, or peer expirence to draw on, and they certainly can't go to their parents, so they continue. This essentially turns into an abusive situation, even though it isn't intended. They very well may be too embarrassed even to stop each other.

    This could cause depression etc. I don't have enough knowlage or expirence to really go on with this, but I think you can see my point. It's the emotional issues I'd be most concerned with.

    As for fact, i know that my grade was sexually active by 7th grade, I have heard of it happening seriously as early as 2nd.
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