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    i won't say who i am but i've been posting here for quite some time, and because of this i'm asking for some serious help. i'm never happy, i don't feel like i'm achieving things ever and i get seriously disturbed often. i'm thinking of just killing myself because i can't ever make myself happy. although i've been trying to excel and keep a reasonable outlook on life i'm still never happy. because of the way i am i don't think i will ever be able to live a peaceful life, either now or later on down the road, so i might as well just end it and spare myself the torment.

    i'm in tears now and i don't know what to do. this has been going on for too long and i can't take it anymore.

    if you want to know the most current problem so you can offer some type of solution, it is problems with school, i'm probably going to be kicked out of a class because i'm not doing well even though i've been trying hard. it's more complicated than just that one problem, but it is the basic fact that i can't seem to succeed that is bothering me so much. i try and try and try but i never actually succeed, like i can't do anything right. and there is so much emphasis on needing to do awesome in order to go to college and have a good life, it is like how am i supposed to have a good life if i can't do anything right and succeed?

    someone out there must have thought the same things, and i desperatly need to know how you got through it.

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    I think most of us here aren't qualified to offer you good help. I really suggest you seek professional help with this matter. The fact of the matter is, all of us deal with the ups and downs up life differently. There's no one right way to do it and your specific situation needs to be looked at.

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    Your not alone man! What is it your taking in school? What is the one thing that you know your good at? Who is the one person who you think deserves a good ass wooping because he or she is too cocky? Are you having chick problems?

    Every day i wonder if im going to have a job the next morning because so many layoffs have been taking place and im the newst guy on the work force.

    I just bought a house and a car and i can barley pay the bills. Yet the only thing that keeps me going is the fact that i want to be someone oneday. i want people to look at me and say damn that guy is really nice.

    I recomend you try to be nice to others and offer them help. even tho you feal as if you need help, i find helping others makes me feal like im needed and wanted. Are you on drugs? I was at one point in time. I smoke way too much weed and poped e pills and hit acid for about a year and it was the worst time of my life now that i look back.

    Sometimes you just have to focus on the task at hand. If you have trouble with school then talk to your teacher. I found that my teachers are usually willing to help. If you think it is your friends draggin you down then use revese phsycology on them and tell them that LITTLE JOHNNY cant come out and play today because he has to study. I found that as soon as i started college only one year ago that the only way i was ever going to succeed was to lock my self in the house away from my so called friends and study, Watch TV and play conversate on the internet.

    I know its hard but if your hooked you may want to cut back on the net also sometimes it becomes too addictive and you cant focus on the task at hand.

    To help you with school make your self a small cheat sheet and carry it with you every where you go. Once an hour pull it out and read one line from the sheet and repeat it to yourself over and over. youll eventually forget about the line but dont wory because at night you will start to dream about that line. and then you will wake up the next morning and go to school to take that test and get atleast a 70 on it. but just think a 70 is better than not waking up at all?

    Think about it! Dont kill yourself because of other people making you feal bad. Get back at them by being overly nice. Mean people hate when you are nice to them.

    Oh and Buy your mom some flowers. It will make her happy and im sure you will be happy if you make someone else happy?

    Sorry im not a professional but i am pften physcotic so i know where you comming from.

    Post hear if you ever need to chat with me

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    ok, first thing to do is take a deep breath.

    Then I agree with CShot, book in your phone book for a social worker, or psyciatrist. If you're not comfprtable doing that go to your school's guidence counciler, that's probably the best playce to go. If that doesn't work find someone at school who you can talk to, an old teacher who you can trust for example, or even just a friend.


    I promise it isn't all bad, and tough times will end. Keep trying because it's all you can do, but don't let it stress you to the point that trying doesn't help. Find someone to talk to in person, it'll make all the diffrence in the world. I know if I hadn't been able to talk to one teacher in particular, or my friends I never would have made it though High School.
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    I guess I just don't know what works best for me. I don't know what to do. I am thinking of talking with a guy at school who deals with people like this. I want to be happy but I am trapped in this cycle of ups and downs, the ups are way up but the downs are way down (I don't think I have bipolar although quite a few aunts and uncles of mine and my grandfather had it).

    [big pause...]

    I am very glad for both of your responses, i feel less depressed and less alone (as squintz pointed out).

    I will take cshots advice by seeing that guy at school i mentioned. if i get used to seeing someone instead of getting suicidal i think i will be on a better track. however i don't want to just feel better, i watn to get better, meaning i have to kick my own ass and learn how to deal with difficult situations. i saw an article in newsweek on teen depression and one of the readers wrote back saying teens get depressed because they aren't mature enough to deal with life's problems. I think that may be me. I think that once i talk to this guy and really learn how to deal with thigns when they get tough is the way to go...well...at least I've got my head on straight.

    thank you for responding, it really means a lot to me, you may have saved a life.

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    Good for you, talking makes all the diffrence I promise you....it did for me and a lot of other people I know. It gets better man, I promise.
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    STOP! Listen to what I have to say!

    Dear unknown member,
    I want you to listen to what i must say first. I am not a councelor, but I do value human life(I value yours!). First, If you need help with homework, i can offer you my help. Secondly, everyone one of us has a life worth living for and it should not be taken lightly especially the thought of suicide. I believe the first step here is to get professional help as Cshot suggested. you already made a friend who will support you along the way. It seems at your age, life is difficult but if you chose to throw it away look at all the things you will miss.
    1. Your family, no matter what, I promise they will
    2. You'll miss the chanes of getting married, and having children of your own. I'll never forgot the day, my Victoria came home from the hospital. Children are a blessing from HEAVEN!
    3. You'll miss all the places, events and things you didn't get to see. E.g. How many people can say they have seen the pyramids in Egypt. I have! I evem ........ed on them. Well, i had to go and the Egyptians say " What comes from the nile must return to the nile" HE! HE! HE! Great times but at first I was scared. I missed my family traveling places.
    4. you'll miss talking to great people in the forum like your friend cj here.
    So please take note I had a friend who hung himself and i miss him very much still today. There is nothing thats to bad you can not be forgiven. We live in a society that scolds people from evil things they've done. "Ask for forgiveness and you will be forgiven." said the lonely carpenter from nazareth. I have ask many time for forgiveness, we all have and anyone who hasn't is a liar.
    HELP ME! Please because I don't want to lose anymore friends. Let me know what I can do to help you in school. Just send me an email; see you have already started a change in your life for the better. Keep it up!
    "Be formless, shapeless, like water... You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot... Now water can flow, or it can crash, be water my friend."
    -Bruce Lee

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    I just bought a house and a car and i can barley pay the bills. Yet the only thing that keeps me going is the fact that i want to be someone oneday. i want people to look at me and say damn that guy is really nice.
    You are!
    "Be formless, shapeless, like water... You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot... Now water can flow, or it can crash, be water my friend."
    -Bruce Lee

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    wow this is more than I have hoped for, i feel more optimistic now that I have read all of your posts, i know that I'm really not alone now. I dont' expect things to magically get better and be perfect, school will probably always be hard for me, but you all have convinced me to go talk to that counselor at school which I will go do tomorrow. I really do mean that too, I will post tomorrow at the end of the day just to say how it went.

    correlcj, kermi3, Squintz, Cshot, and anyone else who replies I am very grateful for you taking me seriously...i was unsure if i should start this topic online because people might just disregard it, but i didn't know what else to do because I don't feel comfortable going to my parents.

    I am going to go do homework now, and I am going to try, and I might get a poor grade on my assignment but i'll try not to think of myself as a failure for it.

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    reading this I can't really think of anything other to say than I
    wish you all the best. I really do hope that you will feel better,
    and seeing someone is the first step towards it and it's also often the hardest. Once
    that ice is broken I hope everything will seem easier...
    my thoughts are with you
    all the best..
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    Hey...
    Everyone has some bad days, but it's not the end of the world?!
    For example life is horrible here in the university with all those subjects and credits and labs, but still i'm alive.

    Regards,
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    Id like to commend everyone here who has offered their support to Unknown.

    Hey unknown...Do me a fav and let us know everytime you feal good about something youv done...

    i come from a broken family... My mom and dad are divorsed but they still get along and my mom has remarried to a man i LOVE to hate... he moved into my house of 19yrs when i was 17 and immediatley took control of everything in the house.

    he is always saying "This is mine and dont do that" and i use to tuck my head between my legs and run away. The only support i had was my brother who was 20yrs old when he moved out because he couldnt stand the way my mom allowed my EVIL step father to control our lives. Finally i had a one on one conversation with my mom... i told her that she better start taking my side or she will lose me for good... I also told her during the same convesation that i think i had mental problems because i am always down...

    I have nothig to be sad about but i am anyways... Now that i look at life i see that i have everything i need. i have a girlfriend who cares about me and a brother who supports me and guides me at the dame time.

    My mom suggested that i go see a Phsycologist and i said ok. The next day i went to work fealing better that i got all the problem in my head out my mounth and into someone elses head. On the way home i decided that i was going to change my entire lifestyle. I started off by changing the MUSIC i listen to and i started to listen to classic rock and love songs. I find that while driving i think the most and the music i listen to puts me in a good mood so hat i THINK POSITIVLEY. Then i desided im just going to be a nice guy for now on. So i started by buying my mom and girlfriend a Lilly (Beautiful Flower) then i call my brother and simply thanked him for all his guidence and support hes ever given me. Then i greated my step father nicely at the door, but i dont think i can ever really be nice to him. he is cocky and everything is his way or no way.

    This is how i coped with my problems and i hope you can find your own way to cope with yours.

    I hope you think of anyone who replies to this thread as you true friends and i want you to know that were all here to help each other.

    P.S. I want to learn c/c++ and eventually move on to 3d game pogramming in a few years. I keep wanting to give up because i find hello world! a bit boring. can any offer any support

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    Sorry i used the wrong login

    I = Davepow16 == Squintz //True

    I dont think this is right

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    Try not.
    Do or do not.
    There is no try.

    Great words of wisdom from the greatest of all jedi! Words to live by when your down and lifes thrown last that fast curve ball at ya.
    Good luck, my friend.
    I will be waiting to hear from you.
    cj
    "Be formless, shapeless, like water... You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot... Now water can flow, or it can crash, be water my friend."
    -Bruce Lee

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    Aww..TK...was that a...a...an attempt at a joke?! Cute! (edit: looks like it's been deleted. Good move, if someone doesn't get TK, I guess...)(edit edit: Looks like he posted again under me as "webmaster"...get a life, Dean)

    to "remain unkown": We've all had bad days where, at one point, we figured death would be a more peaceful option. Don't let the bad things in life get you down. Focus on the positive; the hope for a better future. And the only way that you can hope for a better future is to TRY for a better future. Moping around will get you nowhere, truest me on that.

    Go out. Take a walk. Talk to someone. Smell a flower. Breathe in the outside air. Go make some new friends. Enjoy life!

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