Blind date...Oh, my God!

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    I dunno, sometihng about online relationships seems so...so...desperate.

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    >i've never been in an online relationship <& never will> <

    never say never, you can never be sure about the next day.

    KEN

    same for you. you cannot plan something like that, it just happens
    sometimes.
    behold the faithless one and his angel

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    If somebody uses to lie on a chatroom, then she/he would probably do it in the real life, too.
    Of course, in the real life one cannot say that he is an alterego of Brad Pitt (but, in reality he's more like Woody Allen) or she is a real beauty, while she's "overweight and smells funny" , but can (and probably everybody does so (?)) try to show his or her best parts. This is a lie as well, isn't it?

    CollegeGirl >> "... i don't think i'll meet anyone i know from online <so sorry guys> "
    Oh, yes, You can be sorry!

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    Ok, CollegeGirl, sin problemas! ;P


    M y problem is, I don't like discos, and as I moved to Budapest just last year, also don't have so much friends yet as where I lived before.

    Supermarkets, cinemas, metros - places where you don't really get the opportunity to meet a girl (and I'm not the "Hey, babe, wanna date with me?" type) .

    The chat seemed to be a nice place to meet other people (actually, I've got some friends there, girls as well, but ...well, had no luck).

    Still trying...

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    I personally won't say that online "dating" is the best way to go, however, I think it is a place that can provide a healthy way to strengthen a relationship. I once met a girl while out at my university in Michigan.. she had a boyfriend at the time, so we talked some...

    From that point, we stayed friends and continued to keep in touch.. just recently they broke up, and we met up again with some other friends of mine... we started talking online again and I've been out to see her in Ohio (where she lives) several times since.. and we continue to talk online..

    I know more about her and know her better as a person than I've known some girls that I've dated in person for an entire summer. I think the chat can break down some barriers that open things up for discussion that would not be spoken otherwise... so personally, to all you who don't believe in it..

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    >> ober5861
    "I think the chat can break down some barriers that open things up for discussion that would not be spoken otherwise... "
    Yes, that's what I mean! It's a new kind of communication, which gives other, new perspectives : it's not like chatting on the phone, and certainly not like chatting "live". Everybody tells his/her opinion, without beeing interrupted in the middle of the phrase.

    You gather more information, as you clearly see your chat partner's culture level, intelligence, sense of humour, character (misspelled words, smileys, usage of capitals, punctuation, the whole style) etc.

    I've once had a girlfriend, she looked good, really, but when I first got a letter from her got really dissappointed... misspelled words, nearly no punctuation at all, no style - it was the moment I know her better. On the chat, I wouldn't even talk to such a person more then 5 minutes. We broke up soon (but not for this letter!)

    Chatting can give you some additional information.
    This plus is important for me, as I'd like a pretty AND intelligent partner (as I am )

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    >i know for sure that i will never be in an online relationship even if i met a great guy online it won't be anything till i meet him in real life & i don't think i'll meet anyone i know from online <so sorry guys> J/K!!!!!!!!!!<

    you are loosing the point. you can be sure for nothing. nothing
    at all...
    behold the faithless one and his angel

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    I agree wholeheartedly.. I think talking through a chat situation is a reflection of a person's intelligence, and I think that is one of the most important things to me as far as finding a compatible woman. There are so many things that can be found and learned from chatting that most likely would not have been revealed otherwise... and I'm just restating what I said before and what carlos said, so I'm going to shutup and go back to work now...

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    oh... and BTW, Collegegirl... would you go to dinner with me? I will provide any information you feel necessary, free of lies and false impressions through pictures. I'll send you a current pic.

    HAHAHAHA...

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    CollegeGirl:
    "...you'll know them the way they want you to know them not the way they really are "
    People nearly never show their true character, unless in real stress situation. We always play theatre, don't you think?
    Or you always do show your *real* feelings?

    Btw, there are some "signs" the other is fake, and you don't have to be a psycholog to detect whether he / she just plays a role.
    At least, after weeks, months of online chatting...

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    maybe you'll get to know a person more while chatting online but then again you'll know them the way they want you to know them not the way they really are
    We're all playing roles. And you are right, blatant lies are easier
    to apply in a chatroom. Noone would ever be able to lie about
    his/her gender in real life. But this isn't the point. If the person
    lies, s/he would probably lie in real life, too. And if you know
    what to look for it's as easy to spot in a chat.

    Everyone leaves a trail. If all your chat-partner left on the net
    is his nickname of 'GoddessOfLoveAndSex', it's most likely fake.
    If you can get things that match, like a name and an email
    account, and you can go to the homepage and see that a student
    of this name does exist at the college s/he told you about, then
    it's most likely just the truth.

    I wouldn't chat to meet a partner though. It's like single parties
    and I hate those. However, if your only means of communicating
    without handing over your bank account to your local phone
    company is chatting over the net, then why not ? If you know
    your partner and s/he is away, it's perfectly right. Or would you
    rather not talk at all ?
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    Oh, I see how it is collegirl! Our time together meant nothing! *runs off crying*

    hehehe, but seriously. Online relationships are almost like saying "Well, I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN, so why not have my computer help me out?".

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    I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN
    Yes, if you treat your online friends this way, you are right,
    friendship or relationships are hardly possible. Even if all
    you see is a computer screen, there is always a human being
    behind it. The computer is just a way to communicate, like a
    phone or letters or whatever.
    hth
    -nv

    She was so Blonde, she spent 20 minutes looking at the orange juice can because it said "Concentrate."

    When in doubt, read the FAQ.
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    >to lie about his/her gender in real life.

    ahem... i would love to her this tangent... or a new thread on it...

    >>hehehe, but seriously. Online relationships are almost like saying "Well, I've given up on actually dating with an actual HUMAN, so why not have my computer help me out?".<<

    well, if you look at it _that_ way it's cut and dry... [i'm not supporting either, it's just an interesting perspective...]
    hasafraggin shizigishin oppashigger...

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