Thread: I'm Devastated

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    Look not to the west for your answers, but catch the mystical polar bear and have anal sex with it. Only then will your destiny be complete.


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    Look not to the west for your answers, but catch the mystical polar bear and have anal sex with it. Only then will your destiny be complete.
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    this how to know when one of our young people has been exposed to the intarweb for to long.
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    Let me make it very clear to you that I kicked your ass in this round of stupidness
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    woah...
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    Look not to the west for your answers, but catch the mystical polar bear and have anal sex with it. Only then will your destiny be complete.
    I'm not sure if that's strictly PG13 qualified... ROFL !
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    some news guys...

    She want me back now, but I'm not so sure if I should take her back.

    ut there is one thing that really bothers me.....

    she went out on friday night with some of her friends and got totally plastered! ut wait theres more!! they started playing a truth or dare game. and she kissed another oak. Apparently just a small kiss. She deeply regrets it though. She told me that she felt "dirty afterwards" and went back home.

    I guess I cant be mad at her bcause we werent going out at that point in time.
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    From my point of view, starting from post one of this thread, it's the best thing that could possibly happen. She dumped you. She kissed someone else. She found out that you are the guy she really wants. Happy End. Make sure you get Hugh Grant for your role in the movie version.

    I guess it depends on what you feel and what you want to do. Please take what I say with a grain of salt, as I never was in your situation and, in addition, have dropped my own relationship best practices and morals as soon as I could have used them.

    Method 1: Unconditional Surrender
    Take her back. Live happily ever after.

    Method 2: Pout
    Reject her. Regret it.

    Method 3: Make sure she wants you
    Give her a certain timespan ( a month maybe ? ) to decide what she wants. Tell her that you won't date anyone in this timespan and you will wait for her answer. Don't take any answer before the timespan is up. Don't ask or even mind what she is doing in this timespan. If she wants you, proceed to step 1. If not... well, it would not have lasted for long anyway.

    Please note that Method 3 is the theory. I'm a weak willed coward myself and would immediatly try method 1.
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    how bout method 1 minus any signs of desperation... method 3 is a bad idea in my opinion, not knowing the situation... i dont see much in the way it would result in anything positive, PLUS depending on how you pull it off... with one she will be much happier knowing you will forgive her quickly and dont have to think over the relationship, i figure no matter what you tell her she will take it that way, and one translates to her that, a. you love her that much and b. you belive she loves you c. she can trust you more, and d. you care about her enough not to punish her, cause you realize shes already punishing herself... or something like that... bottom line, be understanding, see her side, she will love you for it.

    Relationships find strength in the tests of their bonds. or something Dr. Philish...

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    edit: apon reading that again... i realize need my own advice show...
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    How about Method 4: Ditch her?

    edit: Truth or Dare? What are you, 12?

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    I'm sure my opinion is not needed... but oh well, this is a community anyway...

    Honestly, I would have a talk with her, just figure out what is going on and listen hard and well. Look for every sign that you can of uncertainty and what not. She is, I assume, around your age, and she is an adult. Treat her as such and talk with her. People have this feeling of being scared of things they don't understand... such as long term relationships. More than anyone else, she will let you know (or won't... depending on how communicative she is) either verbally or with physical cues. Perhaps she just freaked out, or was scared of something happening, above all, be respectful of her needs... women, from what I can tell (I am no expert) are of varying degrees on how they feel about closeness and relationships.

    I am sure this is rambling, but maybe it will help... who knows.

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    >How about Method 4: Ditch her?

    ok lets play a little truth or dare? who hurt you? and why are you so afraid of commiting yourself to a relationship?
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    I eat because I'm sad, and I'm sad because I eat

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    Quote Originally Posted by Govtcheez
    I eat because I'm sad, and I'm sad because I eat
    That's odd, I eat when I get bored, and soon get bored of eating...

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    I don't think you should ditch her right off, but take some time away from her.

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    *hugs govtcheez*





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